We would all like to be better than we are. But this constant pressure only adds dissatisfaction to our lives. I think there is a difference between this and our tendency to reshape things around us driven by our perceived moral purpose. The danger lies in allowing ourselves to be judged by those whose moral purposes we suspect, or we know are flawed or in opposition to our own.
The answer must be to question oneself so that we might seek the jouissance of the moment.